Someone posted on reddit about how awesome Embassy Suites are and in the comments there were people raving about the kinds of breakfast they would get. I popped in and said I'm the "omelette girl" and I appreciated the kind words.
Someone posted on reddit about how awesome Embassy Suites are and in the comments there were people raving about the kinds of breakfast they would get. I popped in and said I'm the "omelette girl" and I appreciated the kind words.
A guy replies asking for me to show my tits.
Welp.
People on the internet are lovely sometimes, aren't they? Give some people a little bit of anonymity and they resort to sub-human standards.:rolleyes:
In a twisted way it's the basic truth of humanity. Evolution has produced a gender that wants to see specific traits in order to make a decision on procreation. The vast
Majority of basic male instinct is to asses the fertility of a prospective partner via such physical traits.
That said, I didn't mean for the original comment to be taken too seriously anyway. I understand men shouldn't be going around shouting "Tits or GTFO" . Even the above comment is not to be taken too seriously :P
Someone posted on reddit about how awesome Embassy Suites are and in the comments there were people raving about the kinds of breakfast they would get. I popped in and said I'm the "omelette girl" and I appreciated the kind words.
From what I have seen, there's a dichotomy/duality concerning this.
There are upstanding men who, while admittedly affected by their hormones, are able to control their stupid urges and to treat women with respect. There are also upstanding women who don't stoop to play into their own hormonal urges or to play into the hormonal urges of men.
On the other hand, there are sluts and players (men and women); basically, people who let their hormones control their actions, and to various degrees are open about it.
What makes me want to facepalm is when a woman wears obviously revealing clothing, and then complains about getting hit on by the wrong kind of men. I mean, seriously.
Also, why is it that women are often attracted to "bad boy" types? That's a serious question. I really would like to know. The character of these guys are obviously many shades of wrong, so I don't understand the appeal.
Someone once said on Simpsons commentary(channelling my inner coolsome apparently): "If you're going to be nice, you're waiting to be someone's second husband".
Evolution, once again. Bad boys just have strong traits that the shy guys also have but passively aggressive demonstrate. Between one and the other, decisiOns are based on millennia of aggressive males getting the best share. This isn't limited to females attractiOn. Studies show that men who are the biggest liars and braggarts get the most followers regardless of competency in many respects, at least until they demonstrate such incomPetency that it's destructive.
Also, why is it that women are often attracted to "bad boy" types? That's a serious question. I really would like to know. The character of these guys are obviously many shades of wrong, so I don't understand the appeal.
You wouldn't believe how many times I ask that same question... -_-
(I wouldn't be attracted to an ice queen bitch, so what makes a "badboy" asshat so appealing. Its the guns isn't it. Admit it women, you like the muscle men! The tough men! Rrrr... You are just as shallow as the men you lamblast! (Stupid World! Stop being so full of hipocrits!;p)
EDIT: Also what is with the caps Daishi!? I gotta know! I GOTTA KNOW!!!
EDIT 2: That wasn't directed to any of you gals here. You guys are cool. No I'm just talking about women in the generic term. The average. ect. Yadda yadda yadda.
Evolution, once again. Bad boys just have strong traits that the shy guys also have but passively aggressive demonstrate. Between one and the other, decisiOns are based on millennia of aggressive males getting the best share. This isn't limited to females attractiOn. Studies show that men who are the biggest liars and braggarts get the most followers regardless of competency in many respects, at least until they demonstrate such incomPetency that it's destructive.
Girls always tell me "no that's not true...we like nice guys too", and they're full of shit. Full of shit. Somehow I managed to find one that meant it, but they are rare. I got far too lucky. The only reason women say that stuff is because they don't want to say something that they know is wrong.
Girls always tell me "no that's not true...we like nice guys too", and they're full of shit. Full of shit. Somehow I managed to find one that meant it, but they are rare. I got far too lucky.
She was cute as a button, and in a bit of a silly mood, but very inquisitive.
So she was watching me work, and I get a pod from another member of staff, (a pod is a capsule we put the money into then we send it down a chute for someone else to sort and distribute), and she asks me "what is that for?" "what are you going to do with that?"
I decided to fuel her (and my own) imagination. I made up a little story on the spot and acted it out.
I started to tell her the truth, that the money from the till goes into there, and goes into the pod, and the person on the other end collects and sorts it.
But then I pulled a complete 180 and said the money then get taken to a giant moneypit underground, where it is guarded by the evil dragon Mifflezet, our dark lord and master.
Everyone paused for a moment to process what I just said, and laughed at the sheer randomness of it all.
The little girl, of course knew I was playing and was like "really? That not true is it?"
Then I'm like "yeah! It is!" and then I turn around to my co-worker behind me and go "Its true isn't it, that all the money in this store goes into the pods to fuel our dragon overlord, Mifflezet! Right?"
I had her in stitches to.
I then needed to get more some more bags as well, so I went to another till to pinch some, carefully looking around as if someone was watching me.
The girl instantly caught on, and asked me why I was doing that.
I went "shhhhh.... The master is watching us, and if he sees me breaking the rules like this, he will be very mad and might eat me! Quick! Quick! Lets get back to the till and back to work!".
Then she asked "how can he see us, there is no-one here".
Then I argued that he was a very powerful dragon with magic so strong that he can see everything that goes on in the store.
The kid was loving all this, and while she was still there, I kept adding to the story. Man I loved that. Seeing this kid having some genuine fun.
I wish I knew more people as awesome and crazy as me, when I was growing up! XD
(I don't know what it is, but when I'm around children, I just get down to their level and goof off. I guess I'm still a big kid myself eh? ;p)
There are upstanding men who, while admittedly affected by their hormones, are able to control their stupid urges and to treat women with respect. There are also upstanding women who don't stoop to play into their own hormonal urges or to play into the hormonal urges of men.
On the other hand, there are sluts and players (men and women); basically, people who let their hormones control their actions, and to various degrees are open about it.
What makes me want to facepalm is when a woman wears obviously revealing clothing, and then complains about getting hit on by the wrong kind of men. I mean, seriously.
There isn't there really an issue with people being promiscuous if they choose to be among consensual parties.
My issue here wasn't the fact that people have strong sexual urges, but rather the odd, yet unfortunately common type of sexual quip made solely on the fact that I mentioned that I was a female. The fact that had I replied to the comment with protest, I would have been met with comments along the lines of: "IF I WERE ASKED TO TAKE OFF MY CLOTHES BY A WOMAN I'D BE GLAD TO DO THAT". Because his comment was downvoted instead, he backed out and started saying "It was only a joke, jeez! Stop whiteknighting!!" It's this attitude that doesn't offend me so much as baffles me.
Is the fact that I'm female really enough of a basis to make this statement, even as a joke? Is being female really that much of a novelty?
Also, why is it that women are often attracted to "bad boy" types? That's a serious question. I really would like to know. The character of these guys are obviously many shades of wrong, so I don't understand the appeal.
You wouldn't believe how many times I ask that same question... -_-
(I wouldn't be attracted to an ice queen bitch, so what makes a "badboy" asshat so appealing. Its the guns isn't it. Admit it women, you like the muscle men! The tough men! Rrrr... You are just as shallow as the men you lamblast! (Stupid World! Stop being so full of hipocrits!;p)
Okay, so I'll be completely honest, until I attended Job Corps, I never really understood this whole dating game thing. I was too introverted and oblivious to understand that stuff during middle school and high school. I mean, I did date some individuals, but those were really more along the line of being really good friends and thinking "welp, i guess the natural progression is to go on a date".
When I actually attended Job Corps, I started really realizing how this whole game worked, especially in such a controlled and enclosed environment. With the situation being 150~ young adults ages ranging 16-24 years old being stuck in an isolated facility 24/7, it was almost like observing flies breed in a laboratory environment.
From my observation: Those least picky/more willing to ask were those more likely to be dating/getting laid. In this case, those who were most like this were those that were more aggressive. They weren't necessarily bad people, per say, they were just aggressively extroverted. The males who were least likely to get dates were the kind that were really quiet and were overly nice to all the girls (and only the girls) in a rather insincere way. These guys would then eventually crack and snap at all the girls for not dating them.
I went to the center with the specific mindset that I wasn't going to get involved with anybody. It was far too volatile of a situation if such a relationship broke apart. There was a situation, however, where I had become friends with an individual who was a self stated virgin with rage. He was very nice to me, and while a little suspicious, I gave him the benefit of the doubt and we played video games a lot on the weekend.
Long story short, he tried tried to cop a feel, got mad when I told him to stop, then when I wasn't feeling well, he tried to rape me citing that he wasn't going with the nice guy thing anymore. He didn't succeed and subsequently got kicked out of the program.
The way I see it, almost everybody sees themselves as nice people regardless of if they're actually nice or not. When they don't get what they want, they chalk it up to other people taking what they think is rightfully theirs by labeling them bad.
The people I see date the most often? Extroverts. This shouldn't be too much of a surprise to anyone. Do girls date assholes? Yeah, they occasionally do in the same way guys occasionally date bitches. You'd be delusional though if you thought all women are stupid and just want to be abused.
There isn't there really an issue with people being promiscuous if they choose to be among consensual parties.
My issue here wasn't the fact that people have strong sexual urges, but rather the odd, yet unfortunately common type of sexual quip made solely on the fact that I mentioned that I was a female. The fact that had I replied to the comment with protest, I would have been met with comments along the lines of: "IF I WERE ASKED TO TAKE OFF MY CLOTHES BY A WOMAN I'D BE GLAD TO DO THAT". Because his comment was downvoted instead, he backed out and started saying "It was only a joke, jeez! Stop whiteknighting!!" It's this attitude that doesn't offend me so much as baffles me.
Is the fact that I'm female really enough of a basis to make this statement, even as a joke? Is being female really that much of a novelty?
Okay, so I'll be completely honest, until I attended Job Corps, I never really understood this whole dating game thing. I was too introverted and oblivious to understand that stuff during middle school and high school. I mean, I did date some individuals, but those were really more along the line of being really good friends and thinking "welp, i guess the natural progression is to go on a date".
When I actually attended Job Corps, I started really realizing how this whole game worked, especially in such a controlled and enclosed environment. With the situation being 150~ young adults ages ranging 16-24 years old being stuck in an isolated facility 24/7, it was almost like observing flies breed in a laboratory environment.
From my observation: Those least picky/more willing to ask were those more likely to be dating/getting laid. In this case, those who were most like this were those that were more aggressive. They weren't necessarily bad people, per say, they were just aggressively extroverted. The males who were least likely to get dates were the kind that were really quiet and were overly nice to all the girls (and only the girls) in a rather insincere way. These guys would then eventually crack and snap at all the girls for not dating them.
I went to the center with the specific mindset that I wasn't going to get involved with anybody. It was far too volatile of a situation if such a relationship broke apart. There was a situation, however, where I had become friends with an individual who was a self stated virgin with rage. He was very nice to me, and while a little suspicious, I gave him the benefit of the doubt and we played video games a lot on the weekend.
Long story short, he tried tried to cop a feel, got mad when I told him to stop, then when I wasn't feeling well, he tried to rape me citing that he wasn't going with the nice guy thing anymore. He didn't succeed and subsequently got kicked out of the program.
The way I see it, almost everybody sees themselves as nice people regardless of if they're actually nice or not. When they don't get what they want, they chalk it up to other people taking what they think is rightfully theirs by labeling them bad.
The people I see date the most often? Extroverts. This shouldn't be too much of a surprise to anyone. Do girls date assholes? Yeah, they occasionally do in the same way guys occasionally date bitches. You'd be delusional though if you thought all women are stupid and just want to be abused.
Give this woman a cigar!
(Also, that dude sounded pretty messed up. Either he was always like that and hid it very well, (even probably convinced himself), or he just went completely coo-coo-loco bananas!)
Girls always tell me "no that's not true...we like nice guys too", and they're full of shit. Full of shit. Somehow I managed to find one that meant it, but they are rare. I got far too lucky. The only reason women say that stuff is because they don't want to say something that they know is wrong.
I never dated as many girls as I did when I started acting like a jackass, and that realization was probably one of the most dissapointing moments in my life.
Okay, so I'll be completely honest, until I attended Job Corps, I never really understood this whole dating game thing. I was too introverted and oblivious to understand that stuff during middle school and high school. I mean, I did date some individuals, but those were really more along the line of being really good friends and thinking "welp, i guess the natural progression is to go on a date".
When I actually attended Job Corps, I started really realizing how this whole game worked, especially in such a controlled and enclosed environment. With the situation being 150~ young adults ages ranging 16-24 years old being stuck in an isolated facility 24/7, it was almost like observing flies breed in a laboratory environment.
From my observation: Those least picky/more willing to ask were those more likely to be dating/getting laid. In this case, those who were most like this were those that were more aggressive. They weren't necessarily bad people, per say, they were just aggressively extroverted. The males who were least likely to get dates were the kind that were really quiet and were overly nice to all the girls (and only the girls) in a rather insincere way. These guys would then eventually crack and snap at all the girls for not dating them.
I went to the center with the specific mindset that I wasn't going to get involved with anybody. It was far too volatile of a situation if such a relationship broke apart. There was a situation, however, where I had become friends with an individual who was a self stated virgin with rage. He was very nice to me, and while a little suspicious, I gave him the benefit of the doubt and we played video games a lot on the weekend.
Long story short, he tried tried to cop a feel, got mad when I told him to stop, then when I wasn't feeling well, he tried to rape me citing that he wasn't going with the nice guy thing anymore. He didn't succeed and subsequently got kicked out of the program.
The way I see it, almost everybody sees themselves as nice people regardless of if they're actually nice or not. When they don't get what they want, they chalk it up to other people taking what they think is rightfully theirs by labeling them bad.
The people I see date the most often? Extroverts. This shouldn't be too much of a surprise to anyone. Do girls date assholes? Yeah, they occasionally do in the same way guys occasionally date bitches. You'd be delusional though if you thought all women are stupid and just want to be abused.
I have to admit, the honesty impresses me. This is exactly how I figured it typically goes.
And to be fair, extroverts and assholes are probably also more secure, and don't give a shit, so they treat others however they want. They also recognize the strangeness in us extroverts, and then avoid us.
It sucks because then no one gets to know people like me, but to be fair, people like me get stuck in the cycle until they snap or become seething, bitter psychotics. I've done the first several times, and currently am the second. So....I guess maybe I can't blame people for avoiding me in my life.
I never dated as many girls as I did when I started acting like a jackass, and that realization was probably one of the most dissapointing moments in my life.
I don't know what is right and what is wrong anymore.
Me. Hmm.. I do snap, but fortunately its never voilent or abusive.
(I just cry, go a little doolally for a bit, skulk/sleep, then get back to whatever I was doing)
I think the only way I can deal with it, is trying to take small steps here and there, to improve my lifestyle, do stuff I want to do.
So I want to make more real-life friends.
My hobby isn't really doing that, so I took up Magic: The Gathering, and am trying to get to tourneys and matches.
Its a hook. The fun is the bait, and its sturdy enough line for me to want to pull on it and get reeled in.
I also want to be a little healther.
So I go on the occasional long walk.
I can't go to the gym yet. I'm too self-concious and scared of the sort of people that go there to go to one, (as irrational as it sounds).
So a brisk walk is a good option. It won't make me look like so much of an idiot, and I can listen to music as I go.
I'm also trying to eat some more salad. But I'm fussy with salad like I'm fussy with fruit.
(Veg I'm never fussy with though oddly enough...)
But again, I tend to deviate a lot. Living with your family doesn't give you that much control.
Once I get some simple stuff nailed down, I want to move up to going to conventions.
Maybe even look for relationships. (I don't even try at the moment. I just don't see myself as worthy or deserving I guess...)
Again, its all about working up to it, and trying not to worry.
(I worry A LOT so thats really, really hard. I talk myself out of anything if I don't keep on top of my metathoughts XD)
And to be fair, extroverts and assholes are probably also more secure, and don't give a shit, so they treat others however they want.
Since when did extrovert = asshole? My guy is an extrovert, and I've never had anyone treat me with more kindness and respect than he has shown me (even after I rejected his initial advance and said I just wanted to be friends... guess I failed at that plan, heh).
He is an absolute gem and I make sure he knows it every single day.
I never dated as many girls as I did when I started acting like a jackass, and that realization was probably one of the most dissapointing moments in my life.
So quantity increased, but what about relationship quality (like long-term partner potential)? I guess it doesn't matter if that's not what you're interested in though, and fair enough.
If it helps, the guys online who say "Show me you're tits" to every random female user are probably not extroverts, nor seeing any actual female tits up close on a regular basis. They're assholes, though.
The ones who are both extroverts and assholes are the most noticeable to everyone, so that's probably why it's easy to associate the two.
About a year ago, or maybe two, I went with my mother to Da Yoopers' Tourist Trap in Ishpeming. Of course, being a tourist trap we ended by entering the gift shop. Another family there had brought their three year old (Assuming age, of course) and he found the little key chains with the raygun lights on them.
The kid pointed the little raygun at me, pulled the trigger, it made the noise and did the lights, and I acted like I had been hit.
That kid had the biggest smile on his face. It was just one little thing, and the kid loved it.
The full series of Moral Orel reruns will begin on September 10th and will air MONDAY thru WEDNESDAY and FRIDAYS at 12:15am (replaying at 3:45). I will do live tweet commentary on all episodes. Also, every episode will be preceded with a few words for me on the black [as] cards.
And then!!!
The Moral Orel prequel, Beforel Orel, will premiere at midnight on Monday, November 19th (replaying at 3:30), and air across that week: Tuesday,Wednesday, and Friday.
If all this does well in the ratings, another Moral Orel series may happen. You know I don't lie about this because ratings were good for the last set of reruns and we got the special.
Girls always tell me "no that's not true...we like nice guys too", and they're full of shit. Full of shit. Somehow I managed to find one that meant it, but they are rare. I got far too lucky. The only reason women say that stuff is because they don't want to say something that they know is wrong.
I don't like jerks. At all. Person could be super good looking but the moment they start acting like a jerk, they've lost all appearance benefits because jerks are super annoying. Humor and intelligence are far more appealing to me in a person. Though I will say that simply being "nice" by itself is not a clincher. Someone who is too nice makes me feel uncomfortable, and I start wondering if they have some sort of sinister motive or something.
And I'm not alone in this. Most of my female friends feel similarly. And they're all, like me, single. Probably because men all say they want nice girls, but they really just want a girl who will put out.
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A guy replies asking for me to show my tits.
Welp.
Majority of basic male instinct is to asses the fertility of a prospective partner via such physical traits.
That said, I didn't mean for the original comment to be taken too seriously anyway. I understand men shouldn't be going around shouting "Tits or GTFO" . Even the above comment is not to be taken too seriously :P
Funny. A guy once asked me to do that.
And i’m a guy. That’s what you get for living in the Bay Area.
Just.. just throwing that out there...
Send him this picture:
1 tits, 2 tits, 3 tits, blue tits!
Daaaaawww... lookie at them. Staring at de wada.
I just want to give dem some bwead and hugs!
--- From what I have seen, there's a dichotomy/duality concerning this.
There are upstanding men who, while admittedly affected by their hormones, are able to control their stupid urges and to treat women with respect. There are also upstanding women who don't stoop to play into their own hormonal urges or to play into the hormonal urges of men.
On the other hand, there are sluts and players (men and women); basically, people who let their hormones control their actions, and to various degrees are open about it.
What makes me want to facepalm is when a woman wears obviously revealing clothing, and then complains about getting hit on by the wrong kind of men. I mean, seriously.
Also, why is it that women are often attracted to "bad boy" types? That's a serious question. I really would like to know. The character of these guys are obviously many shades of wrong, so I don't understand the appeal.
You wouldn't believe how many times I ask that same question... -_-
(I wouldn't be attracted to an ice queen bitch, so what makes a "badboy" asshat so appealing. Its the guns isn't it. Admit it women, you like the muscle men! The tough men! Rrrr... You are just as shallow as the men you lamblast! (Stupid World! Stop being so full of hipocrits!;p)
EDIT: Also what is with the caps Daishi!? I gotta know! I GOTTA KNOW!!!
EDIT 2: That wasn't directed to any of you gals here. You guys are cool. No I'm just talking about women in the generic term. The average. ect. Yadda yadda yadda.
Girls always tell me "no that's not true...we like nice guys too", and they're full of shit. Full of shit. Somehow I managed to find one that meant it, but they are rare. I got far too lucky. The only reason women say that stuff is because they don't want to say something that they know is wrong.
Or maybe your secretly a bad boy.
Or maybe your secretly a good boy! ;D
Oh no! I am a bad boy!
No....NOOOOOOOO!
Fawful = Superman
He's meme-ing you!
Then he's going to meme me!
OH MY GOOOOOOOOOOOOOODDDD!!!
No.
NO.
NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO.
(That Troll 2 guy looks like Tom Pravetz)
She was cute as a button, and in a bit of a silly mood, but very inquisitive.
So she was watching me work, and I get a pod from another member of staff, (a pod is a capsule we put the money into then we send it down a chute for someone else to sort and distribute), and she asks me "what is that for?" "what are you going to do with that?"
I decided to fuel her (and my own) imagination. I made up a little story on the spot and acted it out.
I started to tell her the truth, that the money from the till goes into there, and goes into the pod, and the person on the other end collects and sorts it.
But then I pulled a complete 180 and said the money then get taken to a giant moneypit underground, where it is guarded by the evil dragon Mifflezet, our dark lord and master.
Everyone paused for a moment to process what I just said, and laughed at the sheer randomness of it all.
The little girl, of course knew I was playing and was like "really? That not true is it?"
Then I'm like "yeah! It is!" and then I turn around to my co-worker behind me and go "Its true isn't it, that all the money in this store goes into the pods to fuel our dragon overlord, Mifflezet! Right?"
I had her in stitches to.
I then needed to get more some more bags as well, so I went to another till to pinch some, carefully looking around as if someone was watching me.
The girl instantly caught on, and asked me why I was doing that.
I went "shhhhh.... The master is watching us, and if he sees me breaking the rules like this, he will be very mad and might eat me! Quick! Quick! Lets get back to the till and back to work!".
Then she asked "how can he see us, there is no-one here".
Then I argued that he was a very powerful dragon with magic so strong that he can see everything that goes on in the store.
The kid was loving all this, and while she was still there, I kept adding to the story. Man I loved that. Seeing this kid having some genuine fun.
I wish I knew more people as awesome and crazy as me, when I was growing up! XD
(I don't know what it is, but when I'm around children, I just get down to their level and goof off. I guess I'm still a big kid myself eh? ;p)
There isn't there really an issue with people being promiscuous if they choose to be among consensual parties.
My issue here wasn't the fact that people have strong sexual urges, but rather the odd, yet unfortunately common type of sexual quip made solely on the fact that I mentioned that I was a female. The fact that had I replied to the comment with protest, I would have been met with comments along the lines of: "IF I WERE ASKED TO TAKE OFF MY CLOTHES BY A WOMAN I'D BE GLAD TO DO THAT". Because his comment was downvoted instead, he backed out and started saying "It was only a joke, jeez! Stop whiteknighting!!" It's this attitude that doesn't offend me so much as baffles me.
Is the fact that I'm female really enough of a basis to make this statement, even as a joke? Is being female really that much of a novelty?
Okay, so I'll be completely honest, until I attended Job Corps, I never really understood this whole dating game thing. I was too introverted and oblivious to understand that stuff during middle school and high school. I mean, I did date some individuals, but those were really more along the line of being really good friends and thinking "welp, i guess the natural progression is to go on a date".
When I actually attended Job Corps, I started really realizing how this whole game worked, especially in such a controlled and enclosed environment. With the situation being 150~ young adults ages ranging 16-24 years old being stuck in an isolated facility 24/7, it was almost like observing flies breed in a laboratory environment.
From my observation: Those least picky/more willing to ask were those more likely to be dating/getting laid. In this case, those who were most like this were those that were more aggressive. They weren't necessarily bad people, per say, they were just aggressively extroverted. The males who were least likely to get dates were the kind that were really quiet and were overly nice to all the girls (and only the girls) in a rather insincere way. These guys would then eventually crack and snap at all the girls for not dating them.
I went to the center with the specific mindset that I wasn't going to get involved with anybody. It was far too volatile of a situation if such a relationship broke apart. There was a situation, however, where I had become friends with an individual who was a self stated virgin with rage. He was very nice to me, and while a little suspicious, I gave him the benefit of the doubt and we played video games a lot on the weekend.
Long story short, he tried tried to cop a feel, got mad when I told him to stop, then when I wasn't feeling well, he tried to rape me citing that he wasn't going with the nice guy thing anymore. He didn't succeed and subsequently got kicked out of the program.
The way I see it, almost everybody sees themselves as nice people regardless of if they're actually nice or not. When they don't get what they want, they chalk it up to other people taking what they think is rightfully theirs by labeling them bad.
The people I see date the most often? Extroverts. This shouldn't be too much of a surprise to anyone. Do girls date assholes? Yeah, they occasionally do in the same way guys occasionally date bitches. You'd be delusional though if you thought all women are stupid and just want to be abused.
Give this woman a cigar!
(Also, that dude sounded pretty messed up. Either he was always like that and hid it very well, (even probably convinced himself), or he just went completely coo-coo-loco bananas!)
I never dated as many girls as I did when I started acting like a jackass, and that realization was probably one of the most dissapointing moments in my life.
I have to admit, the honesty impresses me. This is exactly how I figured it typically goes.
And to be fair, extroverts and assholes are probably also more secure, and don't give a shit, so they treat others however they want. They also recognize the strangeness in us extroverts, and then avoid us.
It sucks because then no one gets to know people like me, but to be fair, people like me get stuck in the cycle until they snap or become seething, bitter psychotics. I've done the first several times, and currently am the second. So....I guess maybe I can't blame people for avoiding me in my life.
I don't know what is right and what is wrong anymore.
(I just cry, go a little doolally for a bit, skulk/sleep, then get back to whatever I was doing)
I think the only way I can deal with it, is trying to take small steps here and there, to improve my lifestyle, do stuff I want to do.
So I want to make more real-life friends.
My hobby isn't really doing that, so I took up Magic: The Gathering, and am trying to get to tourneys and matches.
Its a hook. The fun is the bait, and its sturdy enough line for me to want to pull on it and get reeled in.
I also want to be a little healther.
So I go on the occasional long walk.
I can't go to the gym yet. I'm too self-concious and scared of the sort of people that go there to go to one, (as irrational as it sounds).
So a brisk walk is a good option. It won't make me look like so much of an idiot, and I can listen to music as I go.
I'm also trying to eat some more salad. But I'm fussy with salad like I'm fussy with fruit.
(Veg I'm never fussy with though oddly enough...)
But again, I tend to deviate a lot. Living with your family doesn't give you that much control.
Once I get some simple stuff nailed down, I want to move up to going to conventions.
Maybe even look for relationships. (I don't even try at the moment. I just don't see myself as worthy or deserving I guess...)
Again, its all about working up to it, and trying not to worry.
(I worry A LOT so thats really, really hard. I talk myself out of anything if I don't keep on top of my metathoughts XD)
Thank goodness.
Since when did extrovert = asshole? My guy is an extrovert, and I've never had anyone treat me with more kindness and respect than he has shown me (even after I rejected his initial advance and said I just wanted to be friends... guess I failed at that plan, heh).
He is an absolute gem and I make sure he knows it every single day.
So quantity increased, but what about relationship quality (like long-term partner potential)? I guess it doesn't matter if that's not what you're interested in though, and fair enough.
The ones who are both extroverts and assholes are the most noticeable to everyone, so that's probably why it's easy to associate the two.
About a year ago, or maybe two, I went with my mother to Da Yoopers' Tourist Trap in Ishpeming. Of course, being a tourist trap we ended by entering the gift shop. Another family there had brought their three year old (Assuming age, of course) and he found the little key chains with the raygun lights on them.
The kid pointed the little raygun at me, pulled the trigger, it made the noise and did the lights, and I acted like I had been hit.
That kid had the biggest smile on his face. It was just one little thing, and the kid loved it.
I think best thing ever.
I don't like jerks. At all. Person could be super good looking but the moment they start acting like a jerk, they've lost all appearance benefits because jerks are super annoying. Humor and intelligence are far more appealing to me in a person. Though I will say that simply being "nice" by itself is not a clincher. Someone who is too nice makes me feel uncomfortable, and I start wondering if they have some sort of sinister motive or something.
And I'm not alone in this. Most of my female friends feel similarly. And they're all, like me, single. Probably because men all say they want nice girls, but they really just want a girl who will put out.