Help Me Please
When I say while, I mean like 3-4 days and those 3 or 4 days I have spent sitting around in bed doing nothing, but feel like complete shit, I understand that this isn't a guidance counseling website but.. I have been seriously depressed over playing The Walking Dead Game again, I haven't been acting the same around my family and my friends, my grades in school have been fucking terrible, I hardly talk to my friends and the music I listen to now is metal... I hardly listen to anything else now, have a really emoish haircut with my fringe covering my right eye and it's all because of me shooting Lee again.. I have come to realise I love Lee more than I love a lot of things, I love Clementine like she is my own daughter and I love Kenny like he was my uncle. I haven't been on the computer in like a week.. and Im just not feeling the same.
I haven't had any suicidal thoughts because I'm just not like that and I do love life immensely but, I have been really depressed and even my teachers have realised that I have, the other day my maths teacher literally brought me out of class and started asking questions with whatever is going on outside of school and why I'm acting this way, and I lied straight to his face and put on a fake smile and said I was fine.. My mum questioned me about whats going on and why im feeling this way and I lied straight to my mums face and said everything was fine.. I looked directly in my mums eyes and said everything is fine....
The reason I said everything was fine is because if i was to say that Im feeling depression over a video game she would laugh at me and tell me to get over it because it's a game.. She doesn't understand the connection between me and that game and it's so hard to try and explain that I just can't do it..
I'm saying all of this because I need some help, and that;s from you guys so I would really appreciate if you guys were to leave a comment on how to maybe get rid of this depression over time, I don't expect it to be instant no depression but over time, I want this to go away so I can go back to feeling how I was before, the bright and kind person I was always in a good mood sometimes mad but usually a happy person.. Please help me.
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That's where a problem occurs, what makes me happy is gaming and I recently broke my controller and don't have enough money to fix it or buy a new one, and this computer that I'm on can't even run skype so i can't game on this things.. otherwise I might've been all right but yeah.. Thanks though
Find something that makes you really happy, and just ignore TWDG. I got depressed after seeing the worst ending of Witch's House. Just preoccupy yourself, and it should be fine. Do whatever it is that really makes you happy.
Uh...remember it's just a game, that should really have no affect on the way you should live your life?
I can understand being emotionally connected to the characters, and themes, of a game, but that doesn't mean you let it completely change your life, Yes, it can give you new perspective on the way you think about certain things, but to completely change the way you act and live to that degree....yeah, you're taking this to seriously.
Tho....
Also makes me think you're trolling too. Hmm....
If you had seen my profile and the way i make other threads and comments you would know Im not trolling, I know it's just a game and I probably shouldnt take it to serious but, I can't help it.
What's wrong with listening to metal? Anyway, what UCAAV29784 said, try to find something to distract yourself but makes you happy. Completely ignore The Walking Dead until your spirits improve, and if that doesn't work, then you need to talk to someone. It might sound ridiculous I know, but talking about something that is seriously troubling you is always a solution and will make you feel better. If not your parents, than perhaps a psychiatrist. And listen to music that will cheer you up (I can't recommend anything, pretty much all I listen to is metal) and is much more upbeat and happy.
Nothings wrong with metal but I don't usually listen to it, that's all.. Im considering talking to a counceler idk maybe.. cherz for looking out for me bro
really appreciate it.
No problem, the last thing I want to see is someone suffering from playing such an amazing game and I want to help you out any way I can. And you should definitely talk to someone like a counselor, it will help immensely.
Well, the you only thing I can say is to do, or play something fun and exciting that makes you forget about TWD for awhile. Maybe talk to someone as well. Just make sure to avoid TWD for awhile, and after some time ease your way back into it.
Then don't play or discuss TWDG. If you can't game, find something else to do. When I was younger, I used to build things out of Legos to pass the time. I also read books and watched Television. Whatever you can do to be happy, as long as it is safe.
Metal is alright. Happy music for me would be most of the Beatles.
... I hate to say it but she has a bit of a point, it is just a game, its not real. Talk to someone if your really letting it get to you but to be honest getting depression over a game is a bit... I dont know. People have real problems out there you know
Maybe you should seek professional help, I've never really seen a thread this intense about their feelings towards the game. But, that's what the game's for. To make you feel like shit. Welcome to The Walking Dead franchise, buddy.
I can fully understnad that and I know she has a point, that it's just a game and I should get over it, but I just can't, I'll search for a guidence counselor within the next week or so then let you guys know how it's been going.
Mmm did you find out about the game recently? If so then maybe this could be normal. I one time saw a sad anime that made me cry so much even when I wasn't watching it. But the more i saw the anime the less I started to cry and eventually the depressed feeling went away completely. Maybe you should try that. You can convince yourself that it's just a game and it's not real. But if none of this work I would recommend to maybe staying away from the game for a little while. Seek help if this is actually controlling your life.
I understand this thread is about your emotional problems, and i do sympathize. That being said, when did having long hair make you emo... I'm not a emo and my hair covers my right eye because its just long on that side, i comb it over to make women think I'm the "HIM" Guy.
Him Guy
I'm not sure what I'm talking about, but it doesn't sound like it's the game to me. Maybe feelings about Lee or Clementine triggered some other memories. Basically, even if you're really attached to a game character to the point of making you sad, other support sources (family, friends, hobbies, etc.) should level things out to a normal sadness, not a behavior altering one. Or, is there any sort of need you felt was lacking that the story offered you?
Do you know anybody that resembles Lee and Clementine and Kenny in any form (personality or looks or name or profession, etc.)?
What I recomend you is that you right a list of what to do (that have NO connection with TWD nor TTG) and, before the day ends, acomplish most (not to say all) of your objectives.
Your reaction is similar to mine when Dom die in gears of war 3, I was so fucking depress. Believe me, its just the fealings are to strong in the hearts of gamers like us. We just need more time then others to get over with.
No I played the entire season 1 on the release date of Episode 5 No Time Left, in 2012 and played all of the Season 2 episodes on their release dates.
I have 4 sisters me being the only boy/ oldest child, my youngest sister reminds me of Clementine, no one I know reminds me of Lee, and my dad is the onlky person that seme resembles Kenny.. Ill think of some objectives to do not with the game/page
No one close has passed, and nothing really bad has happened to me, except me moving away from two of my sisters in Australia which is the only thing that is seme derpessing.. I thought the game was set out correctly perfect options and everything.. I've been avoiding my friends because they take nothing serious and my family won't take this serious enough for me to talk to them about it.
The only real reason i said emoish haircut with it covering my right eye, is because allot of emo/goth people have those haircuts and I guess I was just stereotyping the haircut as emo.
Were you like this when you first played it back then or just rencently?
In that case, can I get your dads autograph?
Here's an interesting fact, a lot of films after the war were cheerful ones, like 'Singing in the Rain' and such. I think because at the time there was so much death and grief, people needed that emotional boost to get them through life. I think even nowadays, people can find hope in fiction whether in books or films or games, and it can help them feeling connected to characters or getting through bad times. For example, I remember it being mentioned a young boy was able to get over his father's death after watching The Lion King.
I wouldn't put myself on the same page as you, but I did get upset after the finale. After Season 1 I was sad yes, but moved by that ending with Lee and Clementine and it took me about a week to get over it. Season 2 unfortunately just left me frustrated and disappointed, more than i've felt for any series I've been into to present date. I'm a writer, so the way I coped with it was to whine and complain on this forum and tumblr for one [I still do XP] but the second was just to start writing. I literally had to go away a few days after the finale came out, and pretty much that whole week, any time I could I'd be writing my silly little fanfic to help me get through it. Even though that feeling isn't as strong now, I still do it to cope.
I think it's okay be upset about stuff, but it is important just to step back from it [it's probably why I haven't played the game since the finale and don't like looking at videos on it.] the best thing I'd suggest is just doing what the others have suggested by getting into something else for now, or if you can draw or write, you could try doing that to cope that way too.
But if I can suggest another series to get into, try the new episode of Tales From The Borderlands that came out recently; the humor in that is super funny XD
Eat chocolate. Lots of chocolate. Helped me
I don't get it. Being Depressed is a choice. You want to feel that way, its your choice.
Its not a choice, we are depressed because something hurts our fealings at a point that we feel like shit.
You can either allow your way to feel that way or not, Everyone has problems in their life can't sit and dwell about things.
Here is the greatest thing about life.
You have control over how you feel. People can't make you depressed, its a internal issue. Sure there are a lot of outside forces, ie Bullying whatever that can make people feel down, however you can make the choice not to let that bring me down.
Its a choice. Like everything in life.
oh...
Me too..
cheer up~!
i'm Love Clem
There is a lot of things in life that can't be controled by our choice. And if you can control your fealings, well good for you, but thats not mean we can all do it. >:(
Anyone can do it. It just takes practice like everything in life.
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Well that escalated quickly...
I've been wanting to reply too - I'm a bit ambivalent, as I know I have a lot of trouble with thoughts spiraling into self-loathing and the such. It's really really hard for me to keep those kind of thoughts out of my head, and they can get pretty dark. Sometimes I'll watch this and it helps. For this convo, I'm particularly pointing to the part where he's talking about tea - the emotions are all in the bag, you're the one who chooses to let them out. That's true, but at the same time it's so ridiculously hard to keep those emotions bottled up sometimes.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Dv_YiSNqU8c
You have problems mate.
No I'm not. Its just that people who don't understand that every gamers have their own fealings piss me off.
I emphasize with your situation. I found myself very depressed after playing Season 2. All though part of that was I found it depressingly bad, but there were a couple of weeks there were I was having troubling focusing on my work and didn't feel like doing anything. I also understand your hesitation talking about it with others, especially since even here you're getting the "real problems" line, which isn't helpful. But you shouldn't feel odd about it.
Stories are meant to elicit emotions and ideas from their audience. The better crafted the story, and the more invested someone is in the story, the more powerful the reaction can be. And as you can see, there are other people in this thread who have similar reactions to your own. Also don't worry about your problem not being a "real problem". The human mind tends to adapt to situations over time, so happiness is fairly relative.
Many of us are enjoy standards of living far greater than many less fortunate people in the world, but a lot of us are still not happy all the time because we adjust to our standard and what may seem great will eventually just become the norm, and what disrupts that norm in a negative way can be very distressing. That's not to say they aren't people with bigger problems. Obviously, worrying about getting enough food, or being killed in a war, far bigger problems than worried about getting fried from your job. But getting fried, or in your case, being depressed over a story, are still problems and because of how your mind works, will affect you in a very real way.
Like others have suggested, distracting yourself is a good way to help cope with depression. One of the paradoxes of being depressed is it actually takes effort to engage in things you may enjoy or lift your mood, and when you're depressed, you don't feel like putting forth an effort. As such, you kinda have to force yourself to do things you may like. But it's worth the effort, even if it doesn't feel like it initially.
I'm sorry to hear you broke your only controller and don't have the means to replace it at the moment, but you should still seek out things that may both help take your mind off of what's depressing you and elevate your mood. Do you have any friends who you could play games with? There any movies, or books, or music, or t.v. shows you've always wanted to experience that you have access to? Or any you've already experienced and know you like, because revisiting your favorite things can be uplifting too. That's also requires a little less effort since you'll know what to expect.
You might also see if there's any activities your family or friends are doing you can participate in. Sometimes leaving your comfort zone to do something with someone else can help shake you out of your particular funk for a while. Once while I was depressed, I agreed to go with my brother and his friends on a rafting trip I had never done before just to get myself out of the house for a while. And despite a really long car ride and even longer time spent trying to find somewhere that sells alcohol on a Sunday morning, we did eventually get to the river I had a great time in the end. But all morning I was miserable and constantly felt like I should just go back home. So it can be a struggle to just to do something new when you're depressed.
Talking about your problems helps, which is what you're doing here, and that's good. Again, I know you're hesitant to do so because this doesn't seem like a "real problem" but if what you're saying is true, the problem is clearly real. It's affecting your ability to function and that's a problem. If you're worried about people not taking it seriously, I find it can be easier to group your problem in with other more "understandable" problems when discussing something others might consider trivial. They might not understand why you're upset over a video game, but they likely would understand if you're currently unhappy because you feel things just aren't going well for you lately.
I don't know you personally, but it also quite possible that they are other things contributing to your depression, and the Walking Dead may just be the focal point. Depression can kinda snowball on people quite easily. You don't feel well, so you have trouble functioning, something goes wrong, and that can't make you feel worse. It's called a negative feedback loop. You mentioned you broke your only controller, and you said video games are outlet for you, so that's upsetting. And you said your grades are suffering now because your depressed, and that might make you feel worse. Considering these things as a whole when discussing them with your family, or a counselor even, might make it easy to discuss them if you're worried about being judged for getting upset over something that might not seem important.
Lastly, parroting what others said, it might help you get over your grief to just envision better outcomes for Lee, Clem, Kenny and anyone else you cared about. The big advantage of being upset by something that's not "real" is you don't actually have to accept it. Pretending you have a job if lose your job doesn't help your problem, but pretending what happened in a fictional story didn't happen can actually be very therapeutic. Take it from me, I'm a lifetime Star Wars fan, so I've got a lot of experience in rejecting whatever is "canon" and just picturing what I would have liked to happen instead.
As some said, people write Fanfics of what they would prefer or would like to see happen. Some draw art. I personally feel just thinking about a better outcome, even if you don't write it down on anything, can help a lot. I actually pitched a lot of what if scenarios here on the boards as a well of dealing with my dissatisfaction of season two. And way back when season one was finished, and there was talk of DLC (before 400 days was unveiled) I was recommending it take place between episodes one and two. But not to fill in some space in continuity, but as a way for the audience to get one last glimpse of most of the season one cast.
I suggested it as a relatively "better" time for the group where they have food, and there's not any problems to deal with, and it just be a short episode where you can say things to characters you wish you may have said before. Kinda a retroactive goodbye, but in context of the story, may actually be how Lee always felt about these people before things fell apart. Kinda like the scene at the end of Godfather 2 where you see a flashback to the whole family again. (All though that scene actually emphasized how alone Michael was, but for the audience it was a nice nostalgia trip.)
I hope some of this helps a little and I sincerely hope you start feeling better. And just remember what Joel Robinsion said:
"You can write a different ending if you want. It's just fiction. You don't have to accept the ending they hand you."
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FBC9D0IRj3o
So... how is your list? Anyhow, I hope you get better soon.
With all due respect, do you mind me asking if you have a close family connection with your youngest sister?
Try saying that to a person with depression. It's not a simple fix up job of 'just don't feel it' I'm offended you even said that.
It wasn't my intention to offend people, i was just trying to help in my own way, but this is what happens. If anyone was hurt by my words , you know what. whatever.