Where I live, it's completely normal for a girl to ask a guy out. "Evolution" has nothing to do with this. Sure, it's more typical in instances due to cultural pressures, but that's like saying a man should only court a woman and a man who courts a man is wrong and evolution proves that it isn't right.
As a queer, I really don't get all the hubbub about which gender should do what to what. There isn't really any difference between when a guy or girl attempts to court me or anyone else I know. When one asks me, I know that they are interested in me. Gender has nothing to do with that. Why? Because the culture is different here. It's not something ingrained in someone's brain.
There is no right or wrong answer to dating as long as it's consensual.
I blame romantic movies and books. They are what is responsible, in my eyes, for keeping the expectation alive for the man to ask the woman. The expectation is still there, trust me. A man and a woman could be friends. The woman may become interested and opens a window(a metaphor, of course, for what could be just a subtle difference in character towards the man). It, again, is expected for the man to notice said window and make the move to enter it. If it goes unnoticed, it is quite normal for the woman to just close the window and accept the man is not interested(even though he may be completely oblivious).
This is very common...and extremely silly. Seriously, if you are interested in someone, are you honestly going to let your own ideals and expectations get in the way of your happiness? If you like someone, DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT... something that doesn't involve a van with tinted windows and duct tape...obviously.
...My girlfriend did ask me out initially by the way.
Where I live, it's completely normal for a girl to ask a guy out. "Evolution" has nothing to do with this. Sure, it's more typical in instances due to cultural pressures, but that's like saying a man should only court a woman and a man who courts a man is wrong and evolution proves that it isn't right.
As a queer, I really don't get all the hubbub about which gender should do what to what. There isn't really any difference between when a guy or girl attempts to court me or anyone else I know. When one asks me, I know that they are interested in me. Gender has nothing to do with that. Why? Because the culture is different here. It's not something ingrained in someone's brain.
There is no right or wrong answer to dating as long as it's consensual.
Actually as a queer you're a deviation from the norm by a significant degree, so you're making assumptions from a significantly altered brain and chemical distribution perspective. Not to mention that from a sociological perspective you've already made rejections of the norm that would have shaped the rest of people's experiences as far as the general Western world is concerned.
Actually as a queer you're a deviation from the norm by a significant degree, so you're making assumptions from a significantly altered brain and chemical distribution perspective. Not to mention that from a sociological perspective you've already made rejections of the norm that would have shaped the rest of people's experiences as far as the general Western world is concerned.
I never use bollocks, myself. Not because I don't like the word, though - just because I don't feel that the word can be done justice without a British accent.
Hehe true, but I try... of course, I have a strange mixed accent depending on where I am and how much time I've been there. I picked up a fascination with bollocks on my last trip to the UK... uh... that sounded better in my head...
Christmas completed. I got Portal 2 on steam, some Swedish Fish, a slightly used iPhone, an iTunes gift card, a guitar tuner, 2 visa gift cards, 2 Starbucks Gift cards, 2 target gift cards, a new wallet, a Lego Collectible minifigure, a house key shaped like a guitar, and about $100.
Yes...yes. To hold in my hand a capsule that contained such power...to know that life and death on such a scale was my choice. To know that the tiny pressure on my thumb, enough to break the glass, would end everything. Yes I would do it. That power would set me up above the gods! And through the Daleks, I shall have that power!
Yes...yes. To hold in my hand a capsule that contained such power...to know that life and death on such a scale was my choice. To know that the tiny pressure on my thumb, enough to break the glass, would end everything. Yes I would do it. That power would set me up above the gods! And through the Daleks, I shall have that power!
Oh will you just pass the damn salt already and stop being so dramatic about it. heh.
Oh, sure... the moment I whistle the "Song of Storms" while fixing a late breakfast, it starts raining. I wonder what would happen if I start to hum "Bolero of Fire"...
evolution has provided a clear picture of who is more successful with women.
I judge less who has had more dates, and more who has had successful long-term relationships. I am not aggressive when it comes to women. In fact, it was my wife who asked me to hang around and talk a while when we first met. She's not aggressive either, but she was interested in me enough to ask me to stay and talk to her.
People are who they are. Telling people to be aggressive when they are inherently not won't really help. In fact, I think to be so would have made my wife disinterested at the time.
Certainly you need to visit the sort of places where the kind of person you're looking for might be found (ie. going to bar/club is not the right sort of place for many), but the best advice is to be yourself. Don't try too hard; just relax. You will attract the type of person you're looking for best if you are the type of person that they are looking for. If they're not looking for your type, then it's wrong to be someone you're not just to attract someone who wouldn't normally fit well with you.
Actually as a queer you're a deviation from the norm by a significant degree, so you're making assumptions from a significantly altered brain and chemical distribution perspective. Not to mention that from a sociological perspective you've already made rejections of the norm that would have shaped the rest of people's experiences as far as the general Western world is concerned.
Actually up until the first matriarchal grouping was made (which gave way to the patriarchy that has plagued western society up until this point), much of Europe pretty much except the Mediterraneans were indifferent about sex because they saw each other as an entire tribe or kin. Each person being simply another part of the whole. Women were not seen as property but rather another member of the kin. There were gender roles yes (which actually led to the short-lived matriarchy) but for the most part a lady could go up to a guy and if they dug each other they'd have sex. And often times, because she was the one that was going to go through 9 months of childbearing, the woman was often the initiator.
Either way, no one should do anything just because "IT'S WHAT EVOLUTION WANTS" because evolution doesn't want anything. Trying to control evolution, well, we all know that's not a good thing.
also, yes to chyron.
also also, Western society is not the only society that matters. Hopefully you know this.
Actually as a queer you're a deviation from the norm by a significant degree, so you're making assumptions from a significantly altered brain and chemical distribution perspective. Not to mention that from a sociological perspective you've already made rejections of the norm that would have shaped the rest of people's experiences as far as the general Western world is concerned.
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Actually I can't even think of a response to that beyond 'WAT'.
Well, except for if being gay was based on chemical distribution, why hasn't anyone synthethised an 'instant homo' injection yet? THAT WOULD BE HILARIOUS.
Ugh. I REALLY hate when people with no knowledge of hardware and electronics ask how to do something beyond a systems capabilities and won't take "you can't" for an answer...Even a long drawn out fully explained reason. People suck. Not all electronics are fully functioning computers with multiple capabilities...I don't even believe I have to say this... @#$%ing teenagers.
4:30 AM - First alarm went off. Checked my phone. Waited for second alarm at 4:45.
6:00 AM - My shift started.
6:10 AM - Woke up, found my phone under my pillow.
Oh, sure... the moment I whistle the "Song of Storms" while fixing a late breakfast, it starts raining. I wonder what would happen if I start to hum "Bolero of Fire"...
Fun fact: The Song of Storms is my text ringtone. Alas, not once has my phone ever made it rain.
Serenade of Water was always my favourite. Because it warped you right to Lake Hylia so you could spend hours upon hours trying to catch that damn Hylian Loach.
Either way, no one should do anything just because "IT'S WHAT EVOLUTION WANTS" because evolution doesn't want anything. Trying to control evolution, well, we all know that's not a good thing.
Actually, positive eugenics can be a good thing. The government should really use positive reinforcement to keep people with genetic defects and inheritable diseases from procreating. We could eliminate sickle cell anemia, cerebral palsy, Lou Gehrig's disease and so many more devastating illnesses if people with those traits were paid not to have children, or at the very least used IVF and selective implantation of the most desirable fetuses. Oh, but political correctness and religious based ethics keep us from this and, thus, we remain saddled with these problems.
I didn't delete my post. And I wasn't attempting to be a bastard, even if I do occasionally come across that way. However, to whomever I offended, I apologize.
It annoys me when I see people who use the motorized shopping carts made available in grocery stores just because they are fat. If' you're fat you need exercise, and you're not going to get any by sitting on your rear end instead of walking.
Plus, they're using up carts so they aren't there for people who really need them, like my mom, who has poor circulation due to her autoimmune disease and gets tired from walking long distances. She's been getting her strength up and having an easier time lately, but for a very long time, places like Walmart and Costco, or even the grocery store, weren't doable without one of those motor carts, and they were all taken all too often.
This is also why people who use handicap spaces without being handicapped piss me off.
I'm gonna step up and say that often times what happens isn't that they're fat so they take the carts but rather they have arthritis or something else along those lines and they become chair bound and become fat because they CAN'T exercise.
In other words, don't just go OMG YOU FAT FUCK WHY DO YOU STUFF YOUR FACE ALL THE TIME OMG.
It isn't cool when someone calls your grandmother cruel things for things she didn't control.
I'm gonna step up and say that often times what happens isn't that they're fat so they take the carts but rather they have arthritis or something else along those lines and they become chair bound and become fat because they CAN'T exercise.
Likely story... Such cases, though legitimate, are probably few and far between. I'd sooner accept that most are just fat and so their legs are tired.
Seriously, there are elderly and handicapped people who have need of these carts. For otherwise able-bodied fat people to use them is embarrassingly lazy on their part.
Moral of the story: Just don't judge people, gosh.
I get really sick and tired of people talking about how horrible fat people are and then look at me, who makes good eating decisions, exercises, and is quite healthy, then say "well except you".
...Was it ever said that fat people only use motor carts because they're lazy? I didn't think it was. I'm sure plenty of overweight people do legitimately need them, and I don't judge without knowing all the facts. But some people do abuse them. Hell, my friend's grandma was basically told by her doctor that there was nothing wrong with her and she needed to get some exercise and lose weight or she was in danger of developing diabetes. Grandma decided he was lying, bought a Rascal scooter out of her own pocket (because the insurance wouldn't cover it because she didn't need it), and ended up losing her foot because she was lazy (and, according to my friend, because she wanted attention).
Plus, they're using up carts so they aren't there for people who really need them, like my mom, who has poor circulation due to her autoimmune disease and gets tired from walking long distances. She's been getting her strength up and having an easier time lately, but for a very long time, places like Walmart and Costco, or even the grocery store, weren't doable without one of those motor carts, and they were all taken all too often.
This is also why people who use handicap spaces without being handicapped piss me off.
These are both tremendous pet peeves of mine, seeing as how I'm an actual cripple and not some lazy fat person. Also: http://pmj.bmj.com/content/49/569/203.abstract Bam. Weight is all about the calories. Don't eat? Don't replace calories. You live off of fat and it all sheds away. Simple shit.
Also, being fat doesn't cause diabetes. Eating insulin spiking foods does. Which, in a society where just about everything processed has sugar or high fructose corn syrup, is the reason why it's such a problem.
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As a queer, I really don't get all the hubbub about which gender should do what to what. There isn't really any difference between when a guy or girl attempts to court me or anyone else I know. When one asks me, I know that they are interested in me. Gender has nothing to do with that. Why? Because the culture is different here. It's not something ingrained in someone's brain.
There is no right or wrong answer to dating as long as it's consensual.
This is very common...and extremely silly. Seriously, if you are interested in someone, are you honestly going to let your own ideals and expectations get in the way of your happiness? If you like someone, DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT... something that doesn't involve a van with tinted windows and duct tape...obviously.
...My girlfriend did ask me out initially by the way.
Actually as a queer you're a deviation from the norm by a significant degree, so you're making assumptions from a significantly altered brain and chemical distribution perspective. Not to mention that from a sociological perspective you've already made rejections of the norm that would have shaped the rest of people's experiences as far as the general Western world is concerned.
Don't be a dick, DAISHI.
Hehe true, but I try... of course, I have a strange mixed accent depending on where I am and how much time I've been there. I picked up a fascination with bollocks on my last trip to the UK... uh... that sounded better in my head...
Hehe, oh you....
I read that as a house shaped like a guitar...
Oh will you just pass the damn salt already and stop being so dramatic about it. heh.
I judge less who has had more dates, and more who has had successful long-term relationships. I am not aggressive when it comes to women. In fact, it was my wife who asked me to hang around and talk a while when we first met. She's not aggressive either, but she was interested in me enough to ask me to stay and talk to her.
People are who they are. Telling people to be aggressive when they are inherently not won't really help. In fact, I think to be so would have made my wife disinterested at the time.
Certainly you need to visit the sort of places where the kind of person you're looking for might be found (ie. going to bar/club is not the right sort of place for many), but the best advice is to be yourself. Don't try too hard; just relax. You will attract the type of person you're looking for best if you are the type of person that they are looking for. If they're not looking for your type, then it's wrong to be someone you're not just to attract someone who wouldn't normally fit well with you.
I thought he meant make-up. I don't need rouge. My cheeks are rosy by nature.
Actually up until the first matriarchal grouping was made (which gave way to the patriarchy that has plagued western society up until this point), much of Europe pretty much except the Mediterraneans were indifferent about sex because they saw each other as an entire tribe or kin. Each person being simply another part of the whole. Women were not seen as property but rather another member of the kin. There were gender roles yes (which actually led to the short-lived matriarchy) but for the most part a lady could go up to a guy and if they dug each other they'd have sex. And often times, because she was the one that was going to go through 9 months of childbearing, the woman was often the initiator.
Either way, no one should do anything just because "IT'S WHAT EVOLUTION WANTS" because evolution doesn't want anything. Trying to control evolution, well, we all know that's not a good thing.
also, yes to chyron.
also also, Western society is not the only society that matters. Hopefully you know this.
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Actually I can't even think of a response to that beyond 'WAT'.
Well, except for if being gay was based on chemical distribution, why hasn't anyone synthethised an 'instant homo' injection yet? THAT WOULD BE HILARIOUS.
Then again, there aren't a lot of lesbians out there anyway.
As I said, fruitless ...
Nothing like a nice hot chocolate with cookies and squirty cream in the evening.
Well I could have done with some chocolate sprinkles or a flake to crumble on there, but its all great nonetheless!
6:00 AM - My shift started.
6:10 AM - Woke up, found my phone under my pillow.
Fun fact: The Song of Storms is my text ringtone. Alas, not once has my phone ever made it rain.
Or maybe that's just me...
Also, my fiancee asked me out and we couldn't be happier. So there.
Actually, positive eugenics can be a good thing. The government should really use positive reinforcement to keep people with genetic defects and inheritable diseases from procreating. We could eliminate sickle cell anemia, cerebral palsy, Lou Gehrig's disease and so many more devastating illnesses if people with those traits were paid not to have children, or at the very least used IVF and selective implantation of the most desirable fetuses. Oh, but political correctness and religious based ethics keep us from this and, thus, we remain saddled with these problems.
Also, you should click back to the last page. I had a coherent - for me - argument about positive eugenics.
Seriously, it doesn't look very good, but the title was too good to pass up. Here's a webcomic that looks much more promising.
This is also why people who use handicap spaces without being handicapped piss me off.
In other words, don't just go OMG YOU FAT FUCK WHY DO YOU STUFF YOUR FACE ALL THE TIME OMG.
It isn't cool when someone calls your grandmother cruel things for things she didn't control.
also, what it really means to be a man
Likely story... Such cases, though legitimate, are probably few and far between. I'd sooner accept that most are just fat and so their legs are tired.
Seriously, there are elderly and handicapped people who have need of these carts. For otherwise able-bodied fat people to use them is embarrassingly lazy on their part.
I get really sick and tired of people talking about how horrible fat people are and then look at me, who makes good eating decisions, exercises, and is quite healthy, then say "well except you".
These are both tremendous pet peeves of mine, seeing as how I'm an actual cripple and not some lazy fat person. Also: http://pmj.bmj.com/content/49/569/203.abstract Bam. Weight is all about the calories. Don't eat? Don't replace calories. You live off of fat and it all sheds away. Simple shit.
What about 'never trust a man with hair you could lose a badger in'?
Never trust a monkey.
Also, being fat doesn't cause diabetes. Eating insulin spiking foods does. Which, in a society where just about everything processed has sugar or high fructose corn syrup, is the reason why it's such a problem.