The "whatever's on your mind" thread

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  • edited September 2012
    It's just me and my dad. My sister lives with her boyfriend's family, so she's mostly away from this mess. I, on the other hand, have to deal with my dad every night, and to say that he's not coping with the loss of my mom well is an understatement. The biggest thing is that he can't handle being in this house. There's so much he wants to do and so much clutter he wants to get rid of, it's driving him nuts. I think he's largely having trouble with life in general, but he's been venting it through his frustration with the house.

    And at this point, we need each other. He can't get along without me, and I have nowhere to go without him. Unfortunately, I'm not at a place in my life where I can support myself, and even more unfortunately, my dad's such a wreck that this is the only type of support I'm able to get out of him.

    I've been here. You need to support him or help support him the best you can..but you also need to take care of yourself too. It's hard I know but it's what needs to happen. I think what would be good for you and your dad is counseling..it's helped me out a lot and it's helped my sister.

    I don't know..I've got a new baby in the house so everything feels off and I maybe in the wrong..I just know what's worked for me.
  • edited September 2012
    I've tried to suggest counseling, and he always gets defensive. Then, while I was at NDK, he went in for a physical and his doctor also suggested it. Now he's open to going, but mainly because he wants it for me and my sister. He still doesn't think he needs it, but he's willing to go to get help for the two of us. Guess at least I'll be able to get him in there.
  • edited September 2012
    I've tried to suggest counseling, and he always gets defensive. Then, while I was at NDK, he went in for a physical and his doctor also suggested it. Now he's open to going, but mainly because he wants it for me and my sister. He still doesn't think he needs it, but he's willing to go to get help for the two of us. Guess at least I'll be able to get him in there.

    I think it would help out a lot.
  • edited September 2012
    It's just me and my dad. My sister lives with her boyfriend's family, so she's mostly away from this mess. I, on the other hand, have to deal with my dad every night, and to say that he's not coping with the loss of my mom well is an understatement. The biggest thing is that he can't handle being in this house. There's so much he wants to do and so much clutter he wants to get rid of, it's driving him nuts. I think he's largely having trouble with life in general, but he's been venting it through his frustration with the house.

    Oddly enough, this sounds similar to how my grandfather dealt with my grandmother's death. After getting rid of most of her stuff (mainly clothes and jewelry, which he gave to me since we were the same size) he could only talk about selling the house and kept getting rid of more and more stuff. Eventually, he had a big garage sale and basically sold everything that nobody in the family wanted to keep and then moved out.

    I should probably stop helping. But I'm now back in the land of internet, and so will be available for listening purposes.
  • edited September 2012
    It's just me and my dad. My sister lives with her boyfriend's family, so she's mostly away from this mess. I, on the other hand, have to deal with my dad every night, and to say that he's not coping with the loss of my mom well is an understatement. The biggest thing is that he can't handle being in this house. There's so much he wants to do and so much clutter he wants to get rid of, it's driving him nuts. I think he's largely having trouble with life in general, but he's been venting it through his frustration with the house.

    And at this point, we need each other. He can't get along without me, and I have nowhere to go without him. Unfortunately, I'm not at a place in my life where I can support myself, and even more unfortunately, my dad's such a wreck that this is the only type of support I'm able to get out of him.

    I felt very sad reading this post. It only reminds me of my brother, the one who died not too long ago. I sympathize for you.
  • edited September 2012
    Thanks. He had some time to cool off and we talked some, and I certainly wouldn't call things "fixed", but it's a little better.
  • edited September 2012
    You keep saying this. I don't think you realize how extremely little you know about what you're talking about.

    I wouldn't say it if Power Rangers was actually any good. Star Wars and Indiana Jones rip off a lot of things, but no one cares because the (original) movies were still very good. They were also new and fresh feeling, while Power Rangers is not because it feels so much more like a rehash.

    Seriously, the only characters in Power Rangers I ever really liked were Bulk and Skull.

    Also, I didn't think it was required to know the complete Japanese histories of the shows I watch in order to enjoy them, so it doesn't matter what I know about them. It's just that whenever I see Power Rangers, I think about how campy it was (I've also established that I hate camp) and about how it totally resembles a much better show that came on not even 8 years prior.
  • edited September 2012
    Well, just watched the Endeavor (space shuttle) fly over. It was brilliant and fantastic, it flew so low that I could make out the lettering on the side of the shuttle. Definitely worth the hour wait.
  • edited September 2012
    I wish my life had meaning like that. At least I'm improving my paintings. And Finally my father's side of the family doesn't think I'm a moron any more. I'm finally living up to my above average IQ score. But I'm still retarded :D

    I've never known any one else so dumb , that people often call intelligent. I'm a wild card.
  • edited September 2012
    I wish my life had meaning like that. At least I'm improving my paintings. And Finally my father's side of the family doesn't think I'm a moron any more. I'm finally living up to my above average IQ score. But I'm still retarded :D

    I've never known any one else so dumb , that people often call intelligent. I'm a wild card.

    Life does have meaning. IQ is just a number..I can gurantee I'm about as intelligent as anyone with a degree.
  • edited September 2012
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    MAKE UP YOUR MIND!!l!
  • edited September 2012
    Icedhope wrote: »
    Life does have meaning. IQ is just a number..I can gurantee I'm about as intelligent as anyone with a degree.

    I can appreciate that. I always thought IQ could climb throughout life. As for evidence, proof for that ...it's a mixed opinion . There's lots of experts who say yes, lots who say no.

    "Just a few years back, the IQ of a human being was considered as something that is genetic and cannot be improved upon. However, various researches by eminent scientists and neuropsychologists have proven this myth wrong."

    That's the sort of stuff you'll see on this. I've always felt that you can improve certain aspects of your "intelligence" throughout life.


    If I wasn't so insecure I wouldn't cling to that number. I'm just seeking approval from some of my family who has always made me feel like a out cast. Suddenly, because I can express myself a little better socially, they think I'm smart. Isn't that funny? It's sad too...it's frustrating for me as well.

    I've always had a hard time fitting in. It's why I found forums.

    I don't doubt your intelligence. I don't like to judge even because I know how it feels to be judged . We cling to alot of things that are just numbers because we're insecure or need proof and evidence to guide us. I guess it's no way to live though. I don't usually boast about my IQ . It wasn't at a genius level. But it was higher than average . I'm just feeling bad about myself right now.

    So I ate a fatty Wendy's burger and then when I got home my grand parents were telling me how impressed they were by how I present myself now. I guess it's because I feel so stupid right now because of college. Not that I get bad grades, but I don't get great grades either. But that doesn't bother me, it's the fact that I can't hold a conversation with most my class mates because they think they're better and more important to me.

    Everyone clings to something eventually , or for a time. Something in your past, something you did, or that challenged you.

    I've been put down most my life by people for my intelligence, only truly getting approval from my professors and people who have talked to me one on one about various issues I'm fluid in talking about.
  • edited September 2012
    I've got to get to work on my dissertation.
  • edited September 2012
    *Knocks*
    Penny!
    *Knocks*
    Penny!
    *Knocks*
    Penny!
  • edited September 2012
    I can appreciate that. I always thought IQ could climb throughout life. As for evidence, proof for that ...it's a mixed opinion . There's lots of experts who say yes, lots who say no.

    "Just a few years back, the IQ of a human being was considered as something that is genetic and cannot be improved upon. However, various researches by eminent scientists and neuropsychologists have proven this myth wrong."

    That's the sort of stuff you'll see on this. I've always felt that you can improve certain aspects of your "intelligence" throughout life.


    If I wasn't so insecure I wouldn't cling to that number. I'm just seeking approval from some of my family who has always made me feel like a out cast. Suddenly, because I can express myself a little better socially, they think I'm smart. Isn't that funny? It's sad too...it's frustrating for me as well.

    I've always had a hard time fitting in. It's why I found forums.

    I don't doubt your intelligence. I don't like to judge even because I know how it feels to be judged . We cling to alot of things that are just numbers because we're insecure or need proof and evidence to guide us. I guess it's no way to live though. I don't usually boast about my IQ . It wasn't at a genius level. But it was higher than average . I'm just feeling bad about myself right now.

    So I ate a fatty Wendy's burger and then when I got home my grand parents were telling me how impressed they were by how I present myself now. I guess it's because I feel so stupid right now because of college. Not that I get bad grades, but I don't get great grades either. But that doesn't bother me, it's the fact that I can't hold a conversation with most my class mates because they think they're better and more important to me.

    Everyone clings to something eventually , or for a time. Something in your past, something you did, or that challenged you.

    I've been put down most my life by people for my intelligence, only truly getting approval from my professors and people who have talked to me one on one about various issues I'm fluid in talking about.
    Doodo? Is that you? Either way your classmates sound like dickheads. Work really really hard...and show them up by succeeding at something you love. It's what I'm doing.
  • edited September 2012
    I hope it is I miss Doodo! and Davies! he hasn't posted in ages!!
  • edited September 2012
    I can appreciate that. I always thought IQ could climb throughout life. As for evidence, proof for that ...it's a mixed opinion . There's lots of experts who say yes, lots who say no.

    "Just a few years back, the IQ of a human being was considered as something that is genetic and cannot be improved upon. However, various researches by eminent scientists and neuropsychologists have proven this myth wrong."

    That's the sort of stuff you'll see on this. I've always felt that you can improve certain aspects of your "intelligence" throughout life.


    If I wasn't so insecure I wouldn't cling to that number. I'm just seeking approval from some of my family who has always made me feel like a out cast. Suddenly, because I can express myself a little better socially, they think I'm smart. Isn't that funny? It's sad too...it's frustrating for me as well.

    I've always had a hard time fitting in. It's why I found forums.

    I don't doubt your intelligence. I don't like to judge even because I know how it feels to be judged . We cling to alot of things that are just numbers because we're insecure or need proof and evidence to guide us. I guess it's no way to live though. I don't usually boast about my IQ . It wasn't at a genius level. But it was higher than average . I'm just feeling bad about myself right now.

    So I ate a fatty Wendy's burger and then when I got home my grand parents were telling me how impressed they were by how I present myself now. I guess it's because I feel so stupid right now because of college. Not that I get bad grades, but I don't get great grades either. But that doesn't bother me, it's the fact that I can't hold a conversation with most my class mates because they think they're better and more important to me.

    Everyone clings to something eventually , or for a time. Something in your past, something you did, or that challenged you.

    I've been put down most my life by people for my intelligence, only truly getting approval from my professors and people who have talked to me one on one about various issues I'm fluid in talking about.

    I've never taken an IQ test in my life and I probably never will. Why? Because those things are depressing and can't possibly provide a completely accurate assessment of a person's intelligence. From what I understand, it really provides an assessment of your logical reasoning.

    I'd say that what's the most important is bettering yourself. Every class has that person (you probably know who they are) who just seems to *get* everything first go and asks all the really insightful questions and gets hundreds on the exam that everyone else failed. I've been friends with *that* person. And the truth is, *that* person wasn't doing all the things I was doing out of class. They weren't learning martial arts or singing in a choir or getting in arguments on internet forums. They were going home and working for that class. They were working in a lab every spare second and spending hours discussing things with professors. And that's what they enjoyed doing.

    So instead of focussing on how your grades don't measure up, think about the things that you do outside of your education and how they make your life more full. If you still feel that you'd rather have the grades and the answers... well, then you know what to drop.
  • edited September 2012
    If a good bad or ugly person blows up the Universe. It should give us one chance to stop it from ending one atom of the Universe should go back in time just before its destroyed fly in someones head and give them one chance to change it from happening!
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  • edited September 2012
    I've been listening to Sissy Nobby for like, four days straight now.
  • edited September 2012
    coolsome wrote: »
    Davies! he hasn't posted in ages!!

    I'm still hoping to see how he finishes Flight of the Amazon Queen, if he ever does!
  • edited September 2012
    coolsome wrote: »
    *Knocks*
    Penny!
    *Knocks*
    Penny!
    *Knocks*
    Penny!

    Penny for your knocks?
  • edited September 2012
    Davies works in mysterious ways.
  • edited September 2012
    It's the clubbing hour.
  • edited September 2012
    DAISHI wrote: »
    It's the clubbing hour.

    *starts watch* GO!
  • edited September 2012
    I met Billy Gibbons on an airplane yesterday. He’s very down-to-earth, and a good guy to have a conversation with.
  • edited September 2012
    Noname215 wrote: »
    I met Billy Gibbons on an airplane yesterday. He’s very down-to-earth, and a good guy to have a conversation with.

    The airplane wasn't working?
  • edited September 2012
    Avistew wrote: »
    The airplane wasn't working?

    Usually, when your a sharp dressed man.
  • edited September 2012
    Zavvi sucks! Is slow as hell no one replys to your emails and it takes ages to cancel!
  • edited September 2012
    Avistew wrote: »
    The airplane wasn't working?

    Very fucking funny.

    Beside, he was Goin’ Down to Mexico, after he Just Got Back From Baby’s, to a little shack outside La Grange, to get some of that Brown Sugar. He’ll say Gimme All Your Lovin’, because he’s a fool for their stockings and they Gotsta Get Paid these 2000 Blues or he won’t get Doubleback, and then he will be a Rough Boy with his head in Mississippi. He will then get so drunk that he won’t be able to tell the difference between Heaven, Hell or Houston. He’ll just head back towards Viva Las Vegas, where he’ll meet up with some Beer Drinkers and Hell Raisers. He will sit outside of the Casinos, watching all the ladies’ Legs, before finally looking for some Tush. He didn’t get any, so to look cool he’ll buy a pair of Cheap Sunglasses, and drunkenly believe that Jesus Just Left Chicago and was bound for New Orleans. He will then go out into the desert to shoot and kill a few Mexican Blackbirds. He’ll then be Waitin’ For the Bus as if he Just Got Paid, and then he will go back to Vegas and get some Bar-B-Q. The next morning, he’ll Wake up with Wood. He’ll blame it on his daughter’s Punk Ass Boyfriend, and go drive his Chevrolet all the way back to Texas. ‘Cause he knows She Loves My Automobile.
  • edited September 2012
    If this computer can run Skyrim and Tochlight 2 at a semi-decent framerate could it run Borderlands 2?

    (Pentium D 3.4ghz, Nvidia 9400GT 512mb, 4gb RAM, Vista)

    EDIT: Well I picked up the PC version for about £20, so if it doesn't work I'm not exactly fussed.
    (I'll get a better PC eventually. So I'll be able to play it then...)

    Can always wait a month and pick the console version up for about the same amount! XD
  • edited September 2012
    Noname215 wrote: »
    Very fucking funny.

    Beside, he was Goin’ Down to Mexico, after he Just Got Back From Baby’s, to a little shack outside La Grange, to get some of that Brown Sugar. He’ll say Gimme All Your Lovin’, because he’s a fool for their stockings and they Gotsta Get Paid these 2000 Blues or he won’t get Doubleback, and then he will be a Rough Boy with his head in Mississippi. He will then get so drunk that he won’t be able to tell the difference between Heaven, Hell or Houston. He’ll just head back towards Viva Las Vegas, where he’ll meet up with some Beer Drinkers and Hell Raisers. He will sit outside of the Casinos, watching all the ladies’ Legs, before finally looking for some Tush. He didn’t get any, so to look cool he’ll buy a pair of Cheap Sunglasses, and drunkenly believe that Jesus Just Left Chicago and was bound for New Orleans. He will then go out into the desert to shoot and kill a few Mexican Blackbirds. He’ll then be Waitin’ For the Bus as if he Just Got Paid, and then he will go back to Vegas and get some Bar-B-Q. The next morning, he’ll Wake up with Wood. He’ll blame it on his daughter’s Punk Ass Boyfriend, and go drive his Chevrolet all the way back to Texas. ‘Cause he knows She Loves My Automobile.

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    Encore! Encore!
  • edited September 2012
    Drama, who really needs it?
  • edited September 2012
    Well... it works pretty well! :D

    On the absolute minimum settings the game can possibly set! XD

    (Still fun though even if it does look like ass! XD)
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    Don't defile Groucho by mucking him with Romney, you bobblehead.
  • edited September 2012
    Don't defile Groucho by mucking him with Romney, you bobblehead.

    I prefer to think of it as Romney is exactly the sort of person that Groucho would have made fun of with this song.
  • edited September 2012
    Don't defile Groucho by mucking him with Romney, you bobblehead.

    Ouch...burn...
  • edited September 2012
    I prefer to think of it as Romney is exactly the sort of person that Groucho would have made fun of with this song.

    At first I was like-

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    But then I was like-

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    I stopped after "broke whore" what do you guys get?
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